It is finally done. Took over 4 months and then another month to get certified papers, so I'm running down on time to do the final inventory (which has to be back-dated to August - gonna be interesting putting this together). My dad's finances are very, very spread out. There is a lot of files to go through. He didn't want this in the first place so I figure I will take a day off work and go over there when there is a caregiver there to help distract/calm him down as I scan documents I need. Unfortunately, this is the only part of his brain that functions OK but the conservatorship is needed since he can no longer physically write the checks and does not want to spend money where needed (i.e. he needs more care hours per week but doesn't want to pay for them, won't let anyone set him up with a medic alert pendant even though he just fell in the garage again, won't purchase decent food to eat, etc.)
I will have access to very little of his money but the attorney says it is a start. I plan to have his caregiving service send me the twice monthly invoices and I will pay them from the conservatorship account. However, he is insistent on having me continue to pay for monthly bills from his own checking account and wants to be in charge of determining which account his retirement checks get deposited to, how much cash he keeps on hand, etc. The attorney has told me that at some point I need to wrestle this away from him but it is a delicate thing. It would be so much easier to take it over myself. He gets so wound up every month trying to figure out his finances. I was a bit disappointed to find out that in our state I cannot use online/electronic banking to pay his bills. They want cancelled checks. Has anyone else gone through this process with someone who still sort of has it together but really shouldn't be managing their own money? His anxiety is totally up right now. He about had a meltdown on Sunday and called me 10 times in just a few hours (that's after he called my sister four times and our care manager 3-4 times). His anxiety is very high right now and it is partly because of this.