For us, yesterday was a bad day in the world of dementia.
My mom has been with us for about a month now. She has been doing well and seemed to be adjusting nicely. Pretty low maintenance. Eats well, slept well (or so I thought) and showered herself.
Yesterday we were out shopping and when we were exiting the store she veered off of my arm and did a header right into a plain glass pane of the exterior door of a store. It happened so suddenly that I couldn’t figure out why she had done it. She bent over, like ducking and walked right into the glass window. Prior to that she had seemed a bit off but I saw no major issues. All she said was “how stupid can I be”, then laughed.
I let her out on the deck to watch for the deer while I worked at the table, all the while keeping an eye on her. At one time I found her cowering in the corner and asked what was going on and she didn’t have an explanation.
I then went out and talked to her for a while. After a few moment I realized she was delusional. She was claiming all sorts of things that I knew just weren’t true. Confusing her present with her past. I listened and didn’t make any corrections. Some of these stories can get bizarre can’t they?
She did okay for the rest of the evening and went to bed at the usual time.
At 4am the house alarm went off. She tried to go out the door that is in her bedroom. She said she was looking for her glasses, which were right on the nightstand. Thankfully we have a house alarm otherwise she’d be out wandering in the forest.
Apparently she had been wandering the house after that. I tried to go back to sleep but couldn’t. I’m one of those that my mind starts racing after waking so it’s very difficult for me to go back to sleep. I heard her going to the bathroom, etc.
Then this morning I found her in the hallway. She said that she thought someone was in her shower.
Now I understand when people say that sometimes people with dementia are up half the night and the caregivers aren’t able to get any sleep.
I am thankful it is a Saturday and that I can stay home and don’t have any appointments.
Do all dementia patients begin to exit seek? I realize that they all want to go home and that she is still adjusting to being here, but…..