Does anyone know how I can get my Mother (85) to drink more water in a day's time?

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My mother has always been a slow eater and a slow drinker, even when she was a kid. My mother's doctor wants my Mom to drink at least 3- 16.9 fluid oz bottles a day every day. She's doing good if she drinks 1 - 16.9 fluid oz bottle in 3 days. If I let her, she would much rather drink multiple cups of coffee all day long.


Although there is water in coffee, coffee is not good for her kidneys and bladder especially since she has frequent UTI's and is urine incontinent and has to wear diapers all day and all night.


Mom doesn't like tea, or kool-aid or lemonade or lemon water or flavored water.


Can anyone help me out please? Her urine is very, very strong and dark. Her urine smells like snot and it's filmy like too. Any suggestions? Thank you in advance.

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My mom had CHF. When it was really bad we had to limit her fluids and make sure she didn't go over a certain amount. So that meant we had to count the water used in cooking and in soup and fruits and veggies like has been mentioned. So my point is those fluids really count. Whatever your mom likes to eat, if she likes to eat, make it with as much fluid as possible. If she doesn't like to eat there is medication to increase her appetite if that seems appropriate. My aunt drinks most of her liquids as coffee also. She drinks a half caffeine coffee from her local grocer. When I first started drinking it with her it would leave me still wanting coffee because the caffeine was so reduced. So if you decide to cut hers, do it slowly so she won't miss the boost she got from it. I'm hoping she drinks it black or light and not with sugar. What does her doctor say about her salt intake? Salt makes her body hold onto the fluid that she does consume. So limit the salt. Actually it's best to not add any to her food. If she eats out or eats any prepackaged or canned food she's probably getting too much salt. Again if she is used to a high sodium diet you'll have to figure out how to adjust it for her taste. The key is when she gets off of salt don't confuse her taste buds with occasional salty food. It will make her regular food taste too bland. Every little thing you can do helps. Even if you just cut out the worst offenders it will help. The all important exercise can make a difference. Even a short walk around the house. Leg lifts etc. You might ask your dr to order physical or occupational therapy. The increased activity can improve mood, bowels etc. Have you considered depression? Does your dr talk about dialysis? Or is it time for hospice? Have a candid talk with your doctor if you haven't already and ask what the progression of her current condition looks like. If coffee is all she will drink I would be thinking more coffee is better than less fluid? Small thoughtful changes can make it easier on both of you. Have that talk with the dr. If she isn't qualified for hospice ask for the therapy and a class with a dietician so someone qualified can help you with your moms total list of health conditions. Remember your mom may be doing as well as she can. Watch your energy when you are around her and have a nice visit each day without critiquing her or warning her when you are pushing the water. Sometimes we get caught up in an issue with our loved ones and we make it worse. We get afraid of losing them, afraid of not doing all we can to hold onto them and forget to enjoy the journey. Hugs to you both.
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Note- I got the Bai drinks from our local Publix grocery store. They come in small bottles and are a little over $2.00 a bottle, but sooo worth it. cadams
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With Sjogrens Syndrome, Mom developed an AVERSION to good ol' H20.

It's part of the disease.

I prepare a gallon of............. well, today it was Iced tea. This is for the 3 of us. Made a sign that says: Let's drink!

It varies, lemonade, grape, punch, orange. All sugar free.

I have no problem drinking water. But my two loves do.

I'm going to look for the one suggested above. Health food store or ?....

M 8 8
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Crickett, your mom might be trying to avoid liquids so she does not have to pee - or, maybe it hurts to swallow and a course of an acid blocker might work for her. A lot of people won't verbalize about heartburn or tell you it hurts to swallow. She might even have teeth that hurt with anything cold.
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Does she have swallowing issues? Would the doctor have objections to watermelon, canteloupe, apples, and other water-based foods as a portion of the minimum (3- 16.9 fluid oz bottles a day) water requirement?

My dad hated the idea of drinking more water, but watermelon is one of his favorite foods, so he was happy to start eating the watermelon. Same with canteloupe. His average overnight urinary output went from about 600 to 1,100 in no time!
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It took me 5 long years to find something my mom would drink as she had an aversion to water. Finally, I tried the beverages from the brand name of Bai. Bingo. She drinks it ALL the time now. Hurray! They have several flavors. I get mom the brasilia blueberry as she likes blueberries. Also, I give her watermelon when in season. She likes that and enjoys it. Finally.....the "water battle" is a thing of the past....... cadams
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Bless your heart, i know how frustrating it is. Mom (88) currently recuperating from major shoulder replacement surgery will not eat, and reluctantly drinks. She clamps her mouth shut and turns her head, even when i try to spoon feed her. So i should say, she's "reluctantly recuperating...." Jola11 - those are some grand suggestions ~ especially since your Mom is eating. Giving her mostly water-based foods to nosh on [like cucumber spears, celery, and the others listed] is fabulous. Have your tried [sp] ensure - helps with protein and electrolytes and Mom [used to] love the strawberry flavor. Comes in chocolate and vanilla, too. Coupons available online. It's a good idea to bond over sip-to-sip conversations :) as suggested by SonomaRose. My mom seems to be repulsed by jello, pudding, yogurt, any food of any kind. i'm at my wit's end and there's still no answer. She does drink ginger ale [flat, no cold] about 8oz over 3 days, but similar problems with the odor/cloudiness of her urine. i don't understand the reluctance to eat ... it's going on 3-1/2 weeks, and her drinking is getting less. i had to leave the NH/Rehab facility yesterday before i lost it. The *** aid told her to "wet her briefs" because she was too "busy" passing out ice water to assist Mom to the lav. My Mum can't balance and she has only one arm to use... and they tell her to wet herself! Yes, i had words with the staff supervisor before leaving, but i'm not getting through to my Mom whatsoever. Her mouth is so dry her tongue sticks to the roof of her mouth, and she's getting nose bleeds. Nurses don't seem to care..... But my experience with Mom and ice water -- it causes her throat/esophagus to clam up tight and she chokes. Room temp water/beverages or food goes down much more palatable and comfortably. No coughing/choking sounds. Perhaps melted/thawed ice cream or frozen yogurt ~ or try shakes -- spike them with protein powder if appropriate, okay? [If you don't have time, even those from TimeHorton McD etc are fine. Blessings ~ please keep us posted. Many are facing similar troubles with the GI/eating topic. ty & hugs ~
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If your loved one has lost a lot of weight please be aware that "ice cold" water can actually cause a lot of pain as swallowed. I know from both personal experience and caring for my beloved Grandparents who had this problem and now with bil who has lost weight.
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How about ice pops, also I've heard mixed some Pedialyte half with water. Helps with electrolytes as well
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Add a little Crysty Lite for flavor.
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