After a series of increasingly bad falls-the last one against the piano split his head open--I quit my contract consulting business in another state, sold my home and moved in with him. We're supposedly clearing clutter,downsizing, preparing his home to sell or rent out, and combine households. He's still capable and not yet ready for 'assisted living' (he has LTC insurance for that) but has trouble cooking, cleaning. He's now attached to my hip! His home is small which is why we're looking for something where we each have our own space, but he sits in his bedroom until I'm out of the shower and then continues whatever conversation we were having!! If I'm in my bedroom doing anything, because there's nowhere else to be other than the living room, he follows me to his bedroom so he can be close. If I close my bedroom door, he talks to me through the door (he talks constantly) and he still knocks and asks to come in! When I leave, he has mild separation anxiety! I can't combine households if this is going to be my life! I've suggested retirement communities before I moved here (7 months ago) HIs comment was I'm not ready for that or I can't afford that. He can afford it and it's just a retirement community, not assisted living, not a nursing home, not a continuing care community. Just a huge 2-floor complex with lots of senior citizens. I'm tempted to just take him there for the free lunch they've offered without telling him. Just tell him I'm taking him to lunch! He needs people, to talk to, to do things with. It's not me. I'm only 54 and still need to and want to work. My mom's been gone 2 years now. What to do?