We have moved into assisted living because I can no longer handle the house maintenance and with my declining health, can no longer fix his 3 meals per day. But in the dining area of our new community, he has found the case for extra desserts, he drinks a lot of coffee with sugar, several glasses lemonade, and several packets of crackers with butter before the food arrives. He then eats the full meal plus dessert. He now asks for 2 desserts despite my protesting. If there is a lull between servings, he keeps eating crackers with butter and drinking coffee with sugar.
At home, I had to literally stop him from eating. He would not stop! And now, he just has more food choices as well as more food. He needs to lose weight and eat more balanced meals, but it is a never ending battle to stop him eating. I have tried giving him 1 packet of sugar and 1 packet of Splenda and he won't have anything to do with artificial sweetners. I try to order his extra salad and veggies to fill him up, but it hasn't helped. He doesn't know that he is full.
I am fighting a battle that I cannot win. It is very frustrating for me to see him binge on food. And it is very frustrating for him when I try to intervene and limit his intake.
As I said, it is a never ending battle!!
Diabetes is not in the family genetics, but his A1C is borderline and his blood sugar was 119 fasting. His father weighed 400 lbs because all he wanted to do was eat. His brother is a huge eater and obese with diabetes. Their mother tried everything to help them cut down and lose weight, but to no avail.
I am in the same boat with my husband. I just can't keep fighting the family history when he doesn't understand why he must be sensible about eating and can't remember what he was just told.
So my question to you is, do I continue this warfare or do I just let him eat what he wants? And will it be my fault if he does become diabetic? Will it be my fault if he gets all the horrible symptoms and consequences of this terrible disease?
I just don't think I can battle both dementia and diabetes. I am so tired of struggling for so long. I know that I am declining rapidly myself. I know that I can't go on much longer with his care and his difficult behaviors. This is just one of them.
Any ideas anyone?