The hospice where my dad was did allow you to stay 24/7 on a roll out couch. I did kiss his check and told him I would be back even though he was unresponsive. He died later that same evening. I had a son with autism to get back home to and I know my dad understood that, so I did not stay overnight. I also did not think my dad was going to die the evening that he did.
24/7 will make you very groggy and irritable. Kiss his cheek and tell him when you will be back. Go home at night and sleep in your own bed. If you were my daughter, that is what I would want you to do.
Tuborrose, my Mom is on hospice watch now after being in rehab for about a month. She would recognize Dad, my sig other, and me during most of that time... but right now she thinks I am part of the long-term-care staff.
As for staying 24/7, my Mom is in a semi-private soon and I wouldn't think it would be fair to her room-mate if I was there all day and into the night. Plus I could become a liability to the facility if I was there 24 hours, they would need to be checking up on me, too.
My Dad wanted to stay overnight with my Mom at the hospital and he was given a recliner bed to use... middle of the night Mom wanted a nurse as she needed to use the bathroom and since Dad couldn't help her, being he was a fall-risk himself, instead of pushing the bed button to call the nurse, he went up to the Alert board behind Mom's bed and pushed Emergency which meant Code-Blue heart failure which sent an emergency team to Mom's room.... oops .... so the next day they ask me to please take Dad home and he couldn't return unless someone was watching him the whole time. I felt like I was dealing with an overactive 3 year old !!
Who is the "they" who won't let you stay 24/7 with your dad? The hospice company?
Being with someone 24/7 is grueling especially if they're ill and on hospice. Maybe they're concerned that you'll wear yourself out.
As far as does he know you're there, without knowing a little more about your dad and what his ailments are, what his level of consciousness is, it's difficult to say. I believe that when an elderly person is in a coma-like state they can hear everything that's going on although they may not be able to respond. But that's just my opinion. I don't think anyone knows for sure if the person can hear things or not.
As for staying 24/7, my Mom is in a semi-private soon and I wouldn't think it would be fair to her room-mate if I was there all day and into the night. Plus I could become a liability to the facility if I was there 24 hours, they would need to be checking up on me, too.
My Dad wanted to stay overnight with my Mom at the hospital and he was given a recliner bed to use... middle of the night Mom wanted a nurse as she needed to use the bathroom and since Dad couldn't help her, being he was a fall-risk himself, instead of pushing the bed button to call the nurse, he went up to the Alert board behind Mom's bed and pushed Emergency which meant Code-Blue heart failure which sent an emergency team to Mom's room.... oops .... so the next day they ask me to please take Dad home and he couldn't return unless someone was watching him the whole time. I felt like I was dealing with an overactive 3 year old !!
Being with someone 24/7 is grueling especially if they're ill and on hospice. Maybe they're concerned that you'll wear yourself out.
As far as does he know you're there, without knowing a little more about your dad and what his ailments are, what his level of consciousness is, it's difficult to say. I believe that when an elderly person is in a coma-like state they can hear everything that's going on although they may not be able to respond. But that's just my opinion. I don't think anyone knows for sure if the person can hear things or not.