My future MIL moved in 5 months ago when her husband passed away. She stays in the adjacent bedroom upstairs and the only bathroom is upstairs. I work 45 hrs a week. My fiancee works for himself so spends alot of time caregiving. MIL is walked downstairs at 8:30 a.m., fiancee makes her breakfast (which she could do herself), fiancee assists her to go back upstairs to the bathroom or brings a potty downstairs if he is gone awhile. Anyway, I ask him to have her back up to her room by the time I get home (5:30 pm). I'm exhausted, want alone time with him and get tired of her dirty looks (she gets jealous). He thinks this is 'rude' and feels guilty. Am I selfish?? She has a sofa, table and bed in her large room!! She has a phone, radio and has been offered TV. I want to run away so often because I'm in my 40's and feel intruded upon...I can't even talk at my normal tone because I feel she is always listening. I feel she doesn't appreciate the sacrifices being made or the fact that she gets to live with her son.