I need some advice for when parents are still functioning, need help, but won't face that reality. I was thinking I was unique, then I wrote that, and realized, most probably, definitely, not. :)
So, here's the situation. My father is 87. He's in good shape, except for one major area, his eyesight. He has macular degeneration, and while not 100% blind, he's pretty close to blind. Fortunately, he's a Vet, I've got him into the VA system and it's been amazing. They offer a program for the blind that is a 6-week live in situation where he would live with other blind people while learning skills to live in the world.
When I heard about it, I was thrilled. His eye doctors give him a shot, take a look, and send him out the door without any advice on how to cope. They didn't even point him towards people who might help.
This is a path, chance, for him to retain some of his independence, maybe even stay in his home.
So, naturally, he don't wanna. And here we go, every, single, time, I've gotten him help, he throws a fit over it. The stuff he's saying is out out of a sitcom. "I don't have enough clothes for 6 weeks" or "what if my roommate snores", he says. Yeah, I bet no one there has ever heard of laundry in a place where they probably teach you how to do laundry. Sure thing, Dad.
What's happening is the anxiety is kicking in. He has anxiety issues and since he found out about this possibility it's spiked. He's said some pretty off-the-wall things, beyond the above recently, and it's what happens when you sit around stewing all day. He'll never get help for it, won't talk to a therapist, support group, his doctor, anyone except, of course, he'll drop it all on me, while saying he doesn't want to be a burden.
I think this could be the best thing in the world for him.
So, how do I get my father there. I was thinking something like when the dog doesn't want to go to the vet and you trick them? "Dad, we're going to lunch, no that's not a suitcase, and those aren't tidy whities in there, nope, no sir."
Honestly, I have no idea, I'm just frustrated and open to any suggestions.
Thanks for any help.