I am at wits end. My FIL has been living with me for 5 years. He is a hoarder. It took me 2+year to clean out and sell his home and cost me around 20k. He lives with me complains and doesn’t eat. He spends at least $1k a month on himself with means more junk in my house and doesn’t even pay for his food much less any other expenses in our home. I suffer so he can waste.
He won’t let us have our privacy even in so much as closing his door so we don’t have to hear his super loud tv as he is has bad hearing. Sometimes it feels like I am in a concentration camp with multiple loud sounds to make me crazy. I can’t even relax in my own home. I am committed to his care. Cleaning, feeding and housing him. I work full time (actually about 50hr/wk) But it’s always about him. I just want my entire family to have a vacation to look forward to but we can’t.
My 16yr old lost his childhood when my FIL moved in as he is used by my husband for care for his father as well. I am at wits end. I feel so used by a man that has the means to help out financially here (big time) but won’t and is constantly complaining and actingly like he has some sort of right to run this house hold (into the ground) we are all so depressed we are about to fail. My first post...anybody help by at least empathizing?