I set up a camera to be able to see if mom was up and about while I was at work. My mother complained to my sister about the camera though she had agreed to try it for a week. My nephew came to visit her saw the camera and unplugged it, leaving me a very nasty note that I was invading his privacy. When I tried to check in on mom that evening of course I got no feed. Called mom and asked her if she unplugged the camera and of course she said she did not know. Am I wrong for getting upset that my nephew and my sister took down the camera? They have my mother convinced I was “spying” on her and my mother thinks I am trying to “control” her. I don’t know how to move on emotionally since that was a means for me to see mom everyday while not being able to physically be there.
My sister has never wanted to work together in mom’s care. She wants her to do her thing and I do mine with mom. I don’t believe that is the best avenue for caring of our mother with dementia.
How do I handle this interference by my nephew and the lack of support from my sister, my brother and my mom? I am trying to be proactive instead of reactive and am running up against this brick wall called mom, sis, nephew and brother.