Filled with resentment and hate for all of those that are "living" around her? My MIL suffered a stroke years back and they say that she may be suffering from Alzheimer / dementia. We (my husband and our family and my BIL) live with my MIL to TRY and care for her. My husband and I cook and clean for everyone (7 people total), work and care for the house and grounds and are treated with nothing but anger and hatered by my MIL. On occassion she takes it out on my BIL. She has other children as well that have just stopped coming around, stopped calling her and never assist with her care.
She can still get around and do things for herself. However, she refuses to shower (which she can still do on her own as long as someone is there), she refuses to wear incontinence panties (we lay them out but she throws them on the floor or in the trash) then wets and poops her bed or other areas of the house, she refuses to eat with us and on the rare occassion that she does, it is usually not comfortable for anyone. She says nasty things to people and at times does things that seem quite intentional to be mean and spiteful. In her mind, I feel that she thinks that we should all lay down and die with her. That we should all stop living our lives. She has come right out and said that it makes her mad for things we do as simple as going to visit my parents. This may sound harsh but I refuse to stop living because she may be dying. It has turned into nothing short of a living hell in this house!
I have an 8yr old son who is constantly surrounded by hate and depression. He is afraid of my MIL and usually flees the area when she is around. I can not even imagine what this may be doing to him. Rarely do we have his friends over due to the fact that you never know what will happen with her on any given day from her being rude and nasty to walking around half nude and refusing to get dressed because she does not want to.
I do a lot of praying and soul searching. I try to put myself in her position. I've tried to help, I've tried to be patient and kind but it just does not matter what I or anyone does. I just want some form of happy back in my family's lives. I want life to be all that it was meant to be when you're a little kid for my youngest son.