My brothers have undermined me before, by making the decision to put my mom in a home while I was on vacation/respite. I am Mom's AMD and it was stated on there that my approval was needed to put her in any kind of facility. Instead, they are paying me off - hush money - not to argue with them over that decision.
Now, it's worse. My brother claims he needs guardianship over Mom to sell the house. I read up on it, and he only needs to be her conservator. I'm not a lawyer, but my brother CAN apply just to be her conservator, right?
And here's the kicker, he is also claiming that my mom was mentally incapacitated when she signed my AMD, even though he was a witness, and he is trying to have the one she made in 2003 reinstated. Leaving me without any power, but more importantly, blatantly going against Mom's wishes.
My brothers and I do not get along, due to a history of family dysfunction. Dad favored me when we were young which is not my fault, but my brothers have put it in writing that they want nothing to do with me.
I am willing to fight this, not for me, but for my mom since she made it clear to everyone in the past that she always wanted me to be in charge of her medical decisions. I was her best friend for over 20 years. I know practically everything about her and no one can argue with that.
My lawyer brother does not have an empathetic bone in his body, but I can't do this alone. It's too much and now that my parents aren't here, I have no family and no one to turn to.
One brother is an attorney and the other one is a wealthy CIO of a Fortune 500 company. They are used to being cold and calculating. As a teacher, I'm not. My mom was the same way. My big heart has made me a target.
I gave up my job, my benefits for one year to care for my mom 24/7 and then my dad became fatally ill, so I cared for him 24/7 as well. Yeah, 48/7 doesn't make sense. I asked for help numerous times and got no response, even when I sent them information on caregiver burnout. They said I was being dramatic and still believe caregiver burnout is just a cop-out. I quote, "Caregiving is not the type of job where you are entitled to days off." from my super smart successful brother... Seriously?
I have wanted to give up so many times, but my health has already taken a toll and this is making it so much worse. I WANT to fight, but I am alone without a job, without money and the hush money will be cut off if I fight.
I may be naive, but how can family treat each other like this? I have no one in my corner. I am being evicted on June 1st, thanks to my brothers, even though I haven't had time to find a job.
I've noticed how people on here have some very helpful advice. I've even put in my two cents, but now, I need help. Facts will help the most because that's what I will need for court.