My mother is getting dementia and my brother wanted to put her in a home so, finally I agreed. Well, when it came down to sitting down with mom and discussing this and getting a joint power of attorney, he changed his mind and put it on me as I was the bad guy and I wanted to lock her up and be mean to her!
I have always taken care of her and helped with her and he barely comes around. But now that there is land and money issues, he has decided to push me out and get complete control of Mom from a mental stand point, to where she will sign a power of attorney for him and leave me completely out. She is 70 years old, I am oldest 43 and he is 38. I helped with my grandparents and he stayed away because he wanted nothing to do with the actual care of a older person, and now he is doing the same thing. Once it comes down to cleaning and actually caring for her he wont, but he wants control and seems to want to make me look like the bad guy to mom. It has ruined my relationship with both it seems. What led to all of this was, she was talking to a man on Facebook that turned out to be a scam and she had sent him over $5,000. She has liver cirrhosis and both her parents had dementia. She still has a good mind to a point, but it fades sometimes and she is starting to forget names and dates and even memories.
A few weeks ago, during a talk with all of us and Mom, my brother was so mad at her over the money. He wanted to yell and scream at her, but I wouldnt let him. Well last night at another talk with her, he got in my face and got mad and screamed at me and made me look like I was trying to control her and lock her up. Mom took that as I was a bad person now.