My mother has been living in my home for the past six years. She is in good shape financially and in relatively good shape physically. Her state of dementia is severe. Most of the time, having her here is doable. I am able to have a caregiver during the day for about five hours/day. The struggle is what is the right thing to do. I have always believed in the concept of caring for our ageing parents. When I read the comments from folks on this forum, I almost feel like a fool. It seems that most of what I read on this site encourages family members to put their LO in an appropriate facility. At times, when she is whining incessantly, and I just want some space, I think that a facility is the answer. Then, I agonize over how poorly it would work for her. She is needy, like a child needing constant attention. I had her in senior day care and she was kicked out because they couldn't give her the attention she was demanding. I know that she is happy here with me and my husband. Am I being an idiot for not putting her elsewhere? The internal struggle is so difficult because I know that having her here affects us all. My daughter, who has been here for the past year due to Covid, has really bonded with her grandmother. My daughter adores her grandmother and the time that she spends with her. The antics that my mother exhibits drives me crazy and my daughter is able to see humor and be compassionate. I can be that way much of the time, but then there are those days when she is going through her late afternoon craziness and I just want her gone. I know that she will continue to deteriorate. She has since I first moved her into my home. I just don't know what decision I can live with internally. For a little background, my father was dying and I drove him across the country and into a facility for his last month. He didn't want to die away from family. I saw him sporadically while he was still alive since it was an effort to find the time to be with him. That was two years ago. To this day, I suffer that I wasn't available for those final weeks. It haunts me. I don't want to feel that way with my mother.