What is an assertive, respectful response when my Mom wants to know who I'm talking to on the phone?

Not sure how happy I'd be if I couldn't watch my mother 24/7. Do I need an excuse for that?

N1K2R3, I agree! Separate housing worked for us for a long time until there became safety & health issues. I was making over 3 trips daily across town (not really far) to monitor meds & insulin, clean and help around the house; in addition to the many calls of "I can't find my (fill in the blank)," "I can't get my (fill in the blank) to work," or when I'd call her with no answer & I'd rush over picturing the worst, only to have her say she didn't hear the phone ring (right next to her)! Taking care of two households got to be too much for me. I have to say that, although loss of privacy & quiet for us both along with the merger has been a big adjustment, things are less stressful overall for me, and my mother is happy to be here (most of the time-Lol). From others' comments here, I'd say I have it easy for now & try to keep that in perspective.

Since it's difficult to stand up for yourself, she probably feels the need to protect you. Even from people on the phone. ... Or she might just be flexing her mouth to remind you who's in charge. Next time, tell her it's a private conversation. If that's not good enough, just say it's none of her beeswax.

Standing up to her -- finally -- might be a liberating experience. But don't get carried away with this newly-found "power." Instead of a self-respecting, confident woman you might turn into a Queen ... something.