We moved in to take care of mil with dementia after her husband passed away. They had money set aside. There is my husband and 1 brother. We used money to make house livable to accommodate 4 more of us and to purchase a generator. There is a trust fund set up with money. My mil needs 24/7 care. We gave up our home in another part of the state. We still own it but we have renters, that just pay that mortgage. I gave up my job and my husband gave up overtime because I need him here. There is a language barrier and my mil uses about 10% English. My mil makes enough to pay some of the monthly bills, and her meds. She goes to adult daycare and we have very little respite care. My bil says we should pay out of pocket for all her care and taxes on house because we "chose this". We chose this because his family threatened to put her in home if we didn't move in to care for her. His entire family speaks the same language, whereas only my husband speaks the same. They live 1 1/2 hours away. They make twice as much financially then us. She is a stay at home mom. They don't visit her when they come to town and only care about the inheritance. We also have to buy out our 1/2 of the house when she's gone. We can't leave, as this is where my kids go to school now. We had to move here within a month of my fil's death. They go on living their happy go lucky life and are waiting for her to pass, to receive money. They don't even call to check on her. They help us out occasionally when we HAVE to go somewhere, but only when convenient for them. They tell us that they have a family, so can't do much. Although we also have 3 kids like them and around the same ages, except we have one off to college. I've never met anyone so selfish.