My mother just suffered a massive heart attack and her heart is only working 15%. She came home early from the hospital upon her own wishes.
My father is 75 and was just mentally evaluated to get a referral to see a neurologist next week. It’s clear to me that he has some sort of dementia and needs some help.
I took off work for a week and my sisters and brother in law are trying to figure out what’s best for them.
My parents live in a run down house with my sister. They want to get out of the house too. I’m afraid mom cannot take care of dad and my sister won’t always be there and will need down time away too.
So far we have spoken to the aging center in their area and have a social worker coming out in a few days. I also contacted the V.A. about different possibilities there.
Mom and Dad have no POA and no living wills.
I’ve asked my mom what she would like to see, and she said to live in a place where she could help my dad and the building and grounds were someone else’s responsibility.
My sister that lives with them is not good on her own financially, and I don’t know how her living there plays into the factor.
My mom is way too weak and Dad is getting worse. I know they are scared, but we are too. It truly is exhausting physically and emotionally.