My mom is 87 and has had a tough year, losing my dad as well as going through surgery for cancer. I think she's doing remarkably well, but things are not exactly ok.
She lives in an independent living community, and basically she's lucid and rational about the day to day elements of her life that haven't changed for 50 years. You wouldn't meet her and think "poor old gal, she's losing it", but she can't retain understanding about how to do anything new, at the same time that she is demanding and stubborn about having these things.
I understand that she wants to retain her control and dignity and I have no wish to insult her, but she doesn't have the same attitude toward me! I was incompetent and bought a cheap phone that's "broken" (she forgets to push the talk button and doesn't understand the concept of a menu.) I didn't know any better so I bought a bad computer that logs her out of her email whenever the power goes out. If I don't agree to her wishes to have a caller ID phone or a computer then I'm "childish" and "selfish" or "inconsiderate". Ergh.
This sort of thing definitely extends to finances as well, which means it's more than inconvenient, it's expensive.
I'm not exactly sure what I hope to get from this post, but I guess I'm wondering if anyone out there is dealing with a "half-parent / half-child" . I've never been a parent myself and I have no idea how to set limits here. How do you make the decision to take more control, and how do you actually DO that??