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MaryElizabeth4 Asked November 20, 2025

My 84 year old Mother wants to sleep all day and night. We had a good routine, but now she just wants to sleep. Help! What do I do?

MariSun Dec 5, 2025
So many elders are on fatigue inducing drugs. Then if they’re in bed most of the day, they’re not hydrating & that can add to tiredness. If they’re not moving, they can lose their mobility. I think this cycle can cut lives short. AARP has some suggestions.

ContentedOne Nov 28, 2025
You do nothing. Let nature takes its course and learn what to expect.

Check out the YTube videos by nurse Julie. She’s a hospice care nurse that has several videos on the dying process. Sleeping long hours is one sign.

@hospicenursejulie channel: https://youtube.com/@hospicenursejulie?si=xPiCE9bRu_PuhKiY

12 signs of Death: https://youtu.be/j92souF67ho?si=rSyKJgeeJ6s1GFTG

End of Life; What to expect: https://youtu.be/XAux9EjDoNA?si=xjiGEevPVB3Z5qnh

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TouchMatters Nov 25, 2025
Why not let her sleep?
Discuss your concerns with her medical provider.
Medication might need to be changed or there are other reasons why she is sleeping more and needs to see her MD.

Gena / Touch Matters

jolobo Nov 25, 2025
Definitely see a doctor first. But at the end of life, this happens. Sleeping all the time.

funkygrandma59 Nov 20, 2025
She may be nearing end of life as folks that are getting ready to leave this world for the next often sleep 16-20+ hours/day. Perhaps it's time to bring hospice on board.

lealonnie1 Nov 20, 2025
You do not give enough info to get decent or helpful suggestions. Get medical advice on the matter from moms PCP.

Good luck.

southernwave Nov 20, 2025
Does she have dementia or Alzheimer’s? Sick? Or is she healthy and this just happened out of the blue?

AlvaDeer Nov 20, 2025
Does this seem to you to be a manifestation of depression? That is to say, are there other issues?
Has this been discussed with the MD, because many many many medications have this effect? Has a good blood panel been done to check everything, including some crucial vitamin levels? Have you asked your mother?

In his 90s my father, not depressed, rational, a man who had had a wonderful life, expressed himself simply TIRED of it all most of the time. A man who always loved his afternoon nap said he wished for, longed for the "last long nap". He said it was too tiring to go on daily with a life weakened so much he really couldn't get up and down to set in his onions in the ground. Not depressed. Just longed for the end, loved talking about his life, and etc. I encourage you to talk to your mother. If she wants to try a low dose anti depressant that might be a good idea.

We here don't know her and her daily life, but I will be honest with you that some seniors thrive in care of ALF where there are activities and others to talk with when they wish.

I am 83. I will be honest to tell you that the days are sometimes long while the stamina is short. I more and more understand a longing for what has been a very good life to be done with. I more and more love naptime with a good book, sinking back on those pillows and go to sleep. That's just a fact. I have been trying to force myself all week to get out and go junking. Just haven't worked up the full tank of fuel to do it.

I would, were I worried, start with an approach to doctor for discussion and a blood panel.

Sunnygirl1 Nov 20, 2025
Has she been diagnosed with a medical condition?

Daughterof1930 Nov 20, 2025
A change in habits that’s unexpected warrants medical evaluation. Her age will mean more times of rest, but if she’s sleeping around the clock it needs checking by her doctor

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