Exhausted, but not alone.

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Wisdomseeker Asked April 28, 2025

Exhausted, but not alone.

I am a co-caregiver of both parents in a multigenerational household. Despite intentions otherwise, the other caregiver is unable to “give care” most of the time. I do not have to be here. I have my own home. Yet I came to help. Explanations are many as to why caregiving cannot be a priority for them. Yet. If I was not here life would go on and verrrrrry basic caregiving would happen. I am torn.

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“Multigenerational household” sounds nice unless it means “elderly people with extreme care needs requiring younger people to give up their own lives indefinitely.”

Is that what’s going on?

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Bingo! Until we know what this multi-generational household consists of, I haven't a clue, but I DO know if our OP steps in they are likely to be thrilled to let her.

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Yours is a pretty vague post, but a piece of good wisdom that is often shared on this forum is that they won't find another solution if you insist on being their only solution. Here's another one: you don't have to be the way, you can just show them the way. If your other home includes a spouse or kids or both, please remember they are the priority. Your parents can pay for in-home care if the other malingerer doesn't step up ever. But I'm pretty sure they will... once they're the only caregiver there. But...maybe the other caregiver is burning out and that's why you showed up to help? Maybe a different permanent solution is in order.

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Posted in error. Sorry. Disregard.

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