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Normajean62 Asked March 2023

My 85 year old father does not feel he’s being financially abused, however, his checkbooks say something different. Any advice?

My father made his last will he is 85 years old He stated in his will that he owes her $250,000 for caring for my stepmother he said in 2015 he had to pay her lesson less ,however, going through his checkbooks, I had noticed that he was paying her more and more . While still living in my father’s home in 2019, she had gotten a job elsewhere and was only here on the weekends .should a caregiver make over $41,928 in one year in 2013 that’s what she made in 2014 she made $51,344 and in 2015 she made 68,348, 2016 she made 76,<a href="tel:424 2017">424 2017</a> she made 54,132 in 2018 she made 49,080 the year between 2015 and 2017. She had her son living here with her two kids and they pay no rent or bills in 2019 she had her other son live here with his two kids and he pay no rent are Utilities .. there are bank statements missing, and checkbook statements missing in year, 2019 and 2020 I’ve turned her into adult protective service and they told me that I can’t stop my dad from making bad decisions, but this is no doubt financial abuse , I need help on what to do . my father says it’s none of my business on how much money he gives her. However, he can’t afford to buy groceries barely can afford his bills and of course he cannot afford to pay me. I now live with him and take care of him . I found the deed to the house and it is in her name. He put it in her name in 2021.. I am so frustrated. I really thought adult protective service would help me with this, but they were actually no help at all. Told me they can only do so much and their hands are tied .To This day this woman is still coming once a month getting between 500 and $1000 every month and she don’t even live here or work here. Her cars are still parked in my fathers driveway. Been there for four years ,the police said there’s nothing I can do about that because it’s my father‘s property. He’s asked her several times to move the car but she gives one excuse after the other, and he keeps saying, but she’s my friend God for bid I ever had a friend like her. I would never have a friend like that. She’s a user and a liar and her name is Susanna b. Galarpe

JoAnn29 Mar 2023
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/what-can-i-do-about-an-ex-caregiver-that-still-manipulates-and-uses-my-father-478074.htm

You asked the same question back in Oct 2022. I don't know what more you think we can say. APS says he is competent to make his own decisions. In 6 months doesn't seem you got him to a Neurologist.

"he can’t afford to buy groceries barely can afford his bills" So he also can't leave her 250k. If he doesn't have it, she can't inherit it.

Get Dad evaluated. Then place him in LTC with Medicaid paying. The house was turned over to her within the 5 year look back, it will need to go back to Dad. Then u sell it and use it for his care. She can't inherit what is not there, Your Dad is thinking with only one thing and its not his brain.

CTTN55 Mar 2023
I agree with Alva - "Move on and move away. What else must this man tell you to prove that he doesn't care about you? Get your own job, get your own living premises and leave father and this person to continue their relationship until he passes."

Your father has showed you what he is. Believe him. Stop being his caregiving slave.

Why are you continuing to take care of him?

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Geaton777 Mar 2023
You need to remove this woman's name from this public forum or she could SUE YOU for liable and defamation.

AlvaDeer Mar 2023
It is too late. You should have seen an elder law attorney years ago.

Your father has not (correct me if I am wrong) been judged incompetent in any court? That means that he is in charge of his own finances. Are you even his POA?

Move on and move away. What else must this man tell you to prove that he doesn't care about you? Get your own job, get your own living premises and leave father and this person to continue their relationship until he passes.

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