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REGGAE808 Asked February 2023

My sister took my mom who is 84 yrs old with dementia out of the USA and took her to Philippines without my knowledge and leave her there. Any advice?

my mom is 84 years old and a US citizen and has dementia and is need of medical care she has a broken arm when she is living in hawaii by her self and elderly home. i brought her here in henderson nevada in my home so i can take care of her because she cannot take care of herself anymore. on 1/19/2023 mys sister took her from my home without my permission. And later my mom called me that she will be staying with my sister for the weekend. and i said ok, then week comes my mom called she said now shes going to stay with my sister for a period of time. and i said ok maybe my sister need the money i said fine , and on Feb 1 2023 i got a call from my fiancee in the philippines that my my mom is there, and i was shocked for i thought she is still in Las Vegas in my sisters home. and they threatened and try to kick out my fiancee out of my house in the philippines. and i told my sister no get off my property and told her you brought her there its your responsibility. i did not know of my sisters plan to take my mom to the Phillipines to die when she will be take care by me and she also has a funeral plan to be buried next to my dad. what should i do? where do i start? APS? file a police report? please help. im worried sick of my mom shes very old and very sick and there is no medicare there. and i was going to file guardianship because of making her do things against her will but they took her out of the USA and dumped her in the philippines with little money and no medicare

MargaretMcKen Feb 2023
Reggae, it would be good to update your profile (or put in an answer) to say what is wrong with your mother. Many 84 year-olds are quite healthy.

Then it would be good to post WHY this might be happening. If it’s about money, please explain. It’s all anonymous, so it’s just to explain the situation, not sheer nosiness. If it’s about who owns which properties, that might help too. The situation with you and your fiancee living a long way apart is also hard to understand. If it’s about a long standing disagreement with your sister, that’s relevant too.

If you have to get legal advice, the lawyer will want all these details. Get it straight by explaining it here and you will save lawyer’s fees. A short written summary avoids a long and expensive meeting. Yours, Margaret
JoAnn29 Feb 2023
Her original profile did have what she posted here, she changed it.
cwillie Feb 2023
This post has all the info that is lacking from the original and I don't really see any benefit in linking the two 🤷🏻‍♀️
NeedHelpWithMom Feb 2023
I guess people can just read both posts if they want to.

Seems like the additional info could have been added to the first post in as a reply.

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JoAnn29 Feb 2023
This is a duplicate post. This is her profile. Think she may just be trying to clarify her first post. Raggee, its better if you stay with your first post and answer questions asked there. It gets confusing otherwise.


https://www.agingcare.com/questions/my-sister-took-my-mother-out-of-the-country-without-my-knowledge-how-do-i-get-her-back-to-the-usa-479562.htm
NeedHelpWithMom Feb 2023
I agree, JoAnn. It’s probably better to posts to the first posts. It could become confusing. It seems like it would be easier for the OP to have one posting.

No need to have two posts. She could have added additional information to the first post. Perhaps she didn’t think about doing that.
cwillie Feb 2023
Your fiancé is in living the Philippines? And you own a home there?

Maybe I'm missing something but why can't you go there yourself and bring mom home? Or have your fiancé bring her to you?

Geaton777 Feb 2023
Does your Mom have dual citizenship?
Does your Mom have a medical diagnosis of cognitive or memory impairment?
Is anyone in the US her PoA?
Do you know if your Mom assigned your sister as a Philipino version of PoA, legal in that country?

I think due to the international nature of this issue, you really need to consult with an attorney.
REGGAE808 Feb 2023
My mom is in the process of being tested already making doctors appointment but my sister took her to Philippines without my knowledge.
REGGAE808 Feb 2023
yes this is more detailed

NeedHelpWithMom Feb 2023
Duplicate post

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