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Merediths Asked January 2021

Advice for bowel and bladder incontinence?

My mom has recently become Incontinent with bowel and bladder. What advice/suggestions are out there for not only mom, but my husband and I as caregivers? What kind of clean up and skin care are the best? Mom is the most cheery person, but this is really starting to get her down. Any ideas to help her emotionally? She is on Hospice and I will ask the nurse as well, but thought it best to go right to the trenches and learn from those who have been here.


With gratitude, 
M

funkygrandma59 Feb 2021
You've already gotten some great advice, so I will just add that since your mom is under hospice care, they will supply any diapers, chucks(pads for the bed or chairs)diaper cream, gloves, and whatever else is needed. All of course no charge to you, as hospice will cover it 100%. Wish you the best.

Momheal1 Feb 2021
My mom is a stroke survivor - it is very hard for us to ever get to a toilet on time. We use a depend with an overnight pad inside as well as a purewick system. I’m not sure if your mom is up and around during the day but even at night this will help collect 99% of the Urine and keep her dry and her skin protected. You can look it up as they use in the hospital and offer an at home unit. We also use chuck pads under her when she is in bed to absorb anything extra. Best wishes

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cwillie Jan 2021
It depends on whether she is still mobile and able to use the toilet or she needs more help.
If she is having "accidents" then a toileting schedule can help: make sure she goes to the bathroom on a regular schedule, especially before and after meals. This won't catch every accident but I always figured even one success was one less clean up.
Many people love their bidet toilet seats - this isn't a solution for bowel clean ups but I think it would be an option for urinary incontinence. Something that worked for me in cleaning up big messes was having mom seated on the toilet and using the hand held shower to wash everything into the toilet bowl, of course this depends on having the toilet and shower close enough to reach.
Use barrier creams to protect her skin (from the diaper rash section in the baby department). Pick up some baby wipes too. And get gloves. Lots and lots of gloves. I hope you already have some washable bed pads and a moisture proof mattress pad?

Oh, and click/tap the "incontinence" bubble below your question to see articles and questions posted on AgingCare.
Merediths Jan 2021
Thank you so much! Terrific advice we will put to use. I appreciate your time. Off to read the articles...
cxmoody Jan 2021
I know that there are those here with much experience in this matter. I am bumping up your question.
Best wishes to you and your family.
Colleen
Merediths Jan 2021
Thank you!

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