My mom has recently become Incontinent with bowel and bladder. What advice/suggestions are out there for not only mom, but my husband and I as caregivers? What kind of clean up and skin care are the best? Mom is the most cheery person, but this is really starting to get her down. Any ideas to help her emotionally? She is on Hospice and I will ask the nurse as well, but thought it best to go right to the trenches and learn from those who have been here.