I haven't been around my sister for most of her life and only in the last several years have gotten to know her little by little over the phone since we lived so far apart.
My problem is that now that I'm in the same house with her and her friends and due to covid restrictions, I am starting to feel like I made a mistake in coming to live with them.
I feel like I don't know my sister very well, and the other people in the house I seem to be clashing with due to the fact that in California I was very active and productive with my clients and here I'm mostly very inactive and unproductive.
My sister is disabled from 2 strokes, sepsis and being blind in one eye.
The friends that she lives with are a couple, the husband works long hours from home and the wife has her own health issues.
I came here to help my sister and give her friends a much needed break, but now that I'm here I'm feeling like I'm getting in everyone's way, imposing on them, I try to have discussions with them and my sister but they say I'm being argumentative and demanding and entitled. The discussions range from what to watch on TV to what kinds of foods they like, etc. I'm trying to be as helpful as possible by cleaning the kitchen and bathroom but due to them sleeping a lot throughout the day I can't get very much done without disturbing them. They get very upset when they're disturbed even in the middle of the day.
This is their house so their rules. Seems like they have their routine. As a caregiver you have been trained how to care for clients but they probably like you telling them their way is wrong even when it is.
I think ur best bet is to find a place of your own and help sis when u can. If possible, maybe move back to Cal. If sis is on Medicare and/or Medicaid she probably can find help.
Why do they need a break?
Yeah, that was a mistake.
Are these folks paying you?
I would try to get any sort of job available (cleaning, for example) so that you can move out and move on.
They are glad I'm helping my sister, maybe it's just me thinking about all the things I used to do that I don't do anymore because of covid and feeling like I'm stuck. I know we all are stuck at home due to covid, but I feel like I'm just wasting time doing nothing.