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Agilmore1964 Asked December 2020

Don't know where to turn. Any advice?

Mom is 89 years old. Mild dementia, otherwise healthy. I had to quit work and move in with her. Dad died 5 years ago. Brother makes over 200k annually, and helps out only sometimes buying my mother unnecessary stuff when she asks for it. She's horrible at managing money but controls the purse strings since I don't have any. Just wanted to vent.

Agilmore1964 Dec 2020
Thanks for letting me vent

Agilmore1964 Dec 2020
Yes. Brother lives his life. Me, divorced and stuck. Him four or five ex wives. Sucks. I guess I'm just angry.

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Agilmore1964 Dec 2020
I used to live in the city. When my dad was alive parents asked me to move to SC to help them. I thought it was going to be temporary. Turns out they needed more help than they let on. I left everything. I got pos jobs, but I could make it. Then dad died. I still worked tho, and scraped by. Then mom got worse. Then covid. New car, total loss - a tree fell on it. I love in a very rural area, backwoods country-no public transit, closest town 4 miles. 2 neighbors. Mom super tight with$ brother contributes only if I beg beg beg. Health insurance kind of. Can't get to the Dr anyway. It's a cluster.

CTTN55 Dec 2020
I read your previous posts. Has anything gotten better from your earlier posts?

Are you going to be your mother's sole 24/7/365 caregiver until she dies? Then what happens to you, since you quite your job to move in with your parents in 2014?

Do you have health insurance?

Have you considered putting your mother in a facility?

How did it come to be that you "had to quit work"? Your brother continues to live his life but you can't?
Agilmore1964 Dec 2020
Yes I'm the sole caregiver and seems I will be forever. No, I have not considered a facility, dosen't seen to be a need. Also is she did go, I would have no place to live. I know I'm going to come to that bridge anyway tho.

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