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bbjax2020 Asked January 2020

Sibling interference who live out of state. How do I get relief?

My siblings have been calling my dad, bad mouthing me making my dad believe that I have stolen from him and called dcf twice making my dad think that I am being investigated by dcf...when we got our roof done they told my dad that I stole the money. They called the roofing company trying to bully them into giving them the check that belong to the roofing company... when dcf came with the police I went and gave them all the information showing that we were getting the roof done. My brother yelled and screamed and harassed the investigators because they won't put me out...they have not seen my dad in 30 years...they had my dad believing that he can travel along after me sending documentation that he has to have someone with him. I had to get a court order to get him off the plane last week...my sister harassing me saying I'm exploiting my dad...my brother had all the bills going to our home state of Massachusetts where they still live...my dad is almost 91 years old and have mid stage dementia/ Alzhiemers...people have tried to explain my dad's condition and have been shown documentation...my brother took my dad off his dementia meds and had the cna to steal documents not once but twice...my court date is on Jan 27 , where I'm going to request to have my brother POA revoked....my brother has hyjacked my dads bank account to where I can't have access so that I can get my dad long term care...I need relief from this madnesss....my dad and I live in Florida and they all live in Massachusetts.

worriedinCali Jan 2020
I am confused. You said “they” haven’t seen your dad in 30 years so how is one brother so in control and having mail sent to Maine & taking your dad off medications and how are “they” giving your dad alcohol?
bbjax2020 Jan 2020
after being here for 3 years doing it all by myself...they all of a sudden want ed to have a family reunion....I guess they wanted to see if I was lying...some of the family members could see it, but non of my siblings still did not want to believe it and my dad knows what's going on with him but want to stay in denial...so at that visit my brother and I became his POA and on the Deed to my dads house...6mos later my brother and my cousin/ my dads niece showed up unannounced and started bullying my dad to put me out and was planning how to throw some money at me and make me leave...my dad was going around saying money was being stolen on and on in his demented state...so my brother went and thought they was taking me off POA but they did it wrong...then had the deed changed ...all of this without talking to me and after driving off leaving me in the driveway...then later on that night got in my face for no reason....telling me my dad should not take the meds he was taking and then that's when he hired a backwatered cna and told her not to let me take him to the doctor and that's when she stole documentation stating dads dementia ....not only did my brother hired the cna...he put in my dads name without asking or discussing ...this was my brother took my dad off his dementia dad and meds that was helping with my dads hallucinating and agitation ...

after talking to attorneys and researching about how the POA was changed...found out that it was not done properly....then my dad was worried about the house...so I kept telling him that his son took me off the deed...so after him worrying and confused I had the deed changed with him agreeing to it and telling the attorney it was ok....we barely got it in because hes since has detoriated worse...I had to do something and I still was his POA....my brother just knew he had the bag, what he didn't realize is that in Florida the POA has to be revoked in writing....after changing everything he went back to Massachusetts

with the bank account he Called dcf and put on a show that I was stealing from my dad and was telling him to take out more money to pay my bills....the sad part is that is one I stopped going in the bank with him....and two I never breath down my dads neck like that...he took out enough for bills and enough for him to live on for the month...so he convinced dcf to have my dads bills auto paid...so they asked me to send all his bills, when I did that she , the investigator forward the bills to my brother , convincing my dad that I should not handle his bills...when I first came here I found my dad in very bad shape and all bills was behind....he had lost his insurance because he was cursing people out...so it took a couple of years but I got all of his bills straight ....at that time no one was calling or answering my dads calls...its a very long story as I've been here 6yrs....my dad and I were very very close and I always looked out for him while my brother was incarcerations for 40 yrs and the sister was also incarcerated but not as long....but neither had a relationship with him none of the years when my dad had his good mind....I was here for him all of my life..

the difference between me and my siblings ...I never had to steal from him all I had to do was ask....and sometimes I didn't even have to ask...he was there for me and my kids so that's why im fighting for him now....they missed it...thats their fault ....they decided not to have an on going relationship...my sister say she likes his state of mind....this because they can manipulate him..
NeedHelpWithMom Jan 2020
Try to get all the testimonies you can from your dad’s doctors. Do you have access to his medical records or have medical power of attorney?

Why are your siblings doing this? This is crazy. I’m so sorry that you are struggling with this situation.

Your dad needs to be on Medicaid to receive future care and they are harming him by interfering in your moving forward in trying to help him.

Have they seen him and know his current condition? They must be confusing him with their information about you. So sad. With siblings like this it’s a nightmare. Many of us have dealt with crappy siblings. My heart goes out to you.
bbjax2020 Jan 2020
Thanks for the support ...my brother and I have POA...I have everything set up except the trust which I know have to see what the judge does...I have an injunction out and the Judge will decide whether to make it permanent...Ive been helping my dad for almost 6 years...they're interested in the house and his money...all they do is bad mouth me to my dad and tell him not give me this that or the other or don't let me help with this that in the other....now trying get my dad to get an attorney....my dad no longer can recall conversations, how to fix the tv or sometime don't know how to turn on the washing machine...my siblings do not want to believe or research how dementia works...they give him alcohol ...not like a drink of wine for dinner, my dad was and I guess is an alcoholic....it is very sad...my brother abusing his POA that we have together and that's why Im requesting the judge to revoke his part...

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