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Lynn876 Asked June 2019

Making a hard decision. Any advice?

How to make your heart know what your mind knows about placing mom in LTC? She requires someone with her 24/7 due to poor balance and fall risk along with her dementia. When I'm not at work I'm with her.

Lynn876 Jun 2019
thanks i just feel a little bit like im being selfish wanting a little bit of my life back. my husband and two of my sons (21 and 23) help out so much. plus she counts and wants me with her all the time. im just torn

BarbBrooklyn Jun 2019
Your mother has dementia.

No one person can care for a dementia person full time; it takes several shifts of trained, strong, generally young caregivers.

You are not abandoning your mom; you are changing your role to that of advocate. Believe me, there will be PLENTY to do!

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Sendhelp Jun 2019
Lynn,
It was CWillie who comforted me when my loved one was taken away.

English Standard Version Bible:
"Truly, truly, I say to you, when you were young, you used to dress yourself and walk wherever you wanted, but when you are old, you will stretch out your hands, and another will dress you and carry you where you do not want to go.”

Today, my loved one is in AL, by his own choice after living briefly with different family members. Does not fall any more, has friends, is well taken care of by additional private caregivers.

cwillie Jun 2019
It's like when you had to hold your nose and take the awful tasting medicine, you just have to do what is needed and deal with it as best you can.

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