Mom starts crying every time I take her into the shower and almost every time I cut her nails. What can I do?

Lulu, when one becomes older, there is always the fear of falling in the shower. Grab bars in the shower can be helpful, along with a rubber floor mat, and a shower chair. Now, if the shower is a bathtub size shower, some elders get claustrophobic, so it would be best to let a slider door or a shower curtain opened a bit.

I see from your profile your Mom has Alzheimer's/Dementia. Makes me wonder back when your Mom was a child if her own Mom had accidentally hurt her while trimming her nails. Best time to trim nail is immediately after a shower when the nails are soft and easy to cut.