My daughter has POA over my mother and has been misusing mom's bank account. What can I do?
Mother is 78 years old with Alzheimer's. My daughter has written herself over $10,000 from my stepfathers life insurance he left to my mother. What can I do??
BelleShell62, first I would mention to your daughter that you noticed that she had written checks for over $10k on Grandmother's account, and that you are curious what is that all about.
It could all be innocent. Maybe your Mother gave her that money, and your daughter accepted it not realizing it could cause problems later on. Heavens, I never knew about Medicaid for the elderly until I was in my 60's and read about it here on the forums.
Or maybe your Mom had your daughter set up another bank account, and she adds to it every now and then for your Mom. I realize your Mom has Alzheimer's, it depends if this is new or Mom has had it for a number of years.
Yes this is abuse of the POA. Maybe u should make an appointment with the lawyer who drew it up and have him explain what a POA can do and what they can't do. Maybe she is paying herself which, according to members, really needs a contract. To protect her and grandmom from being able to get Medicaid. Some people don't understand what a POA entails.
Agree, report daughter to APS or demand daughter repay your mom. Barbara is correct, this will appear to be gifted without documentation to support the payment. It will effect grandma's eligibility for Medicaid.
Who is caring for your mother? If it's your daughter, make sure that this is not reimbursement for legitimate expenses that she has receipts to prove expenditures.
However, if this is theft, pure and simple, report her because otherwise it will keep your mother from qualifying for Medicaid when it is needed. It will appear to be "gifting" of funds to your daughter.
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It could all be innocent. Maybe your Mother gave her that money, and your daughter accepted it not realizing it could cause problems later on. Heavens, I never knew about Medicaid for the elderly until I was in my 60's and read about it here on the forums.
Or maybe your Mom had your daughter set up another bank account, and she adds to it every now and then for your Mom. I realize your Mom has Alzheimer's, it depends if this is new or Mom has had it for a number of years.
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Who is caring for your mother? If it's your daughter, make sure that this is not reimbursement for legitimate expenses that she has receipts to prove expenditures.
However, if this is theft, pure and simple, report her because otherwise it will keep your mother from qualifying for Medicaid when it is needed. It will appear to be "gifting" of funds to your daughter.