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RuthannP Asked June 2017

What can I do when my my daughter's boyfriend is taking advantage of my mother-in-law?

my mother in law is has my daughter's boyfriend doing yard work she agreed to pay 20 hrs. my husband found out she has been giving him 200.00 every week and he is only there for 2hours.We don't feel he should taking that much money from her.She is very infatuated with him he tells her he has a new name for her beautiful grandma I need to know what to do please help

RuthannP Jun 2017
I don't think so

gladimhere Jun 2017
She needs to be seen by a doctor. Do not tell her it is to have her evaluated, I wouldn't want to go either. Imagine how frightened she must be. Send a note to the doc before the appointment about what has been going on. Then doc should take the lead in the examination. Is she seeing a geriatrician?

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RuthannP Jun 2017
she definitely has dementia but has not been diagnosed by a physician.She has been saying inappropriate things to my daughter's boyfriend.I have noticed her hair looks dirty and she isn't combing her hair and last week she backed over a light post in her yard she denies it.She insist she will let us know when she can no longer drive.I have been bringing her to appointments that are a town over because she said it's hard to park. She has a fear of falling she won't go to a doctor to be evaluated.

AliBoBali Jun 2017
If MIL is mentally competent, and the $200 per week doesn't put her in any financial danger, does it really matter if he does 2 hours or 20 hours? He is helping her and she clearly feels helped, unless she is not mentally sound.

gladimhere Jun 2017
I would not hesitate to ask your daughter about it. Not in a confrontational way. Ask what he does to earn the money and if she thinks it is fair and reasonable. Is MIL competent? How old is she? If she is competent she can spend her money any way she pleases.

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