My mom is 91 and has dementia. The one family member near by her has died. She has been in the facility over 2 years. My sibling visited her daily like clockwork so she is sad without him. I visit once a month, and could maybe come every 3 weeks but it is difficult. I have one other sibling that is 4 hours away but she comes about 4 times a year. I'm worried moving her away would be extremely hard although I think I've found a place close by that would be nice for her. I need advice!
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Moving would require for her to learn everything all over again, and at her age and with her memory issues, it would be very difficult. Plus finding new doctors, dentists, and every specialist doctor known to man kind. And she wouldn't know anyone except you, and you can't be there all day.
Therefore, keep her where she is.
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Flying is out of the question, my Dad could travel in the car but mom would be difficult.
My instinct is to spare them the trip when the time comes for facilty care and make the trip as needed like I've been doing and see how things progress. Change like this is very hard for old folks with dementia.
With dementia, how much does your mom get out of your visits?