I am her daughter, primary caregiver, "P.O.A", and one of four siblings ages 40-59. i live 10 minutes away from my parents, I am married to disabled retired husband of 25 years. Daily I visit my mother at her home and we have "discussions" of possible border line "abuse" my mother is receiving from my father. None of my siblings visit,call,send a card, nothing. I am almost bleeding out of my eyeballs crying about their lack of care and support. My father was raised in the south and was also shown abuse from his parents when growing up. So, obviously, I as well as my siblings were raised in a very physically, and emotionally abusive environment our whole lives while living at home. Mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimer Dementia Parknsons Disease about 8 years ago. Also has many other health issues that are being maintained by my support or her medications. Dad has been very supportive caring for her with me over the last 7 years or so. Within the last 6-7 months, he has been away from their house more often than none, and mom tells me he also refuses to help her with meal prep., help her clean up, change her clothes, help her with dentures, make or pour her coffee or drink or food at meal time anymore. She is only able to be mobile with using her WALKER whenever she is up and around the house due to her late stage Alzheimer Dementia along with Parkinsons tremors and loss of balance and weakness. Both of them only have medicare coverage and have a very low fixed disability income per month. I am asking if anyone who has experienced this type of situation wth a non-supportive parent or spouse has any information as what my next steps or course of action plan should be to possibly transfer her to a memory care facility of some kind. She HAS BEEN in and out of hospitals and nursing homes and rehab centers over the years, then she returned back home after her "recoveries". I am unable to move her in to my home, but I am not sure when,how,who or what I should contact to get information on transferring her out of their home, get financial assistance to cover the cost, and what legal right I have over my father if this becomes a power struggle with him since he has all control over their bank account and finances. Im continuing to support and check in on her daily which seems to help give her piece of mind during this time.