What rights does my mother-in-law have when my husband has guardianship of her but no longer lives with her?

1rarefind, not all Alzheimer's victims become violent. Some do, some don't. Please be more careful eith your generalities.

I thnk your husband will have to set the ABSOLUTE boundaries here. No taking out of his mother by his dad.... and then the dad passes out?!! What?? Not good! No! No! No!

Guardianship means your husband has total control. For some reason, the court felt he was a better choice over the husband. Your husband can draw the line. Her husband walked out leaving it all in ur hands.

I'm wondering if step-FIL might have a little cognitive decline himself, it seems he can't understand that at this stage his wife can no longer be the companion he wants. It might be annoying as h3ll, but if he is fine with her otherwise I would just put up with having to repeat NO (nicely of course) every week.

I'm certainly no expert in this area but guardianship as I understand it means your husband has complete and total responsibility for his mother. Given your MILs assumed age and therefore her husbands - this may be a hard concept for the husband to wrap his head around as he is probably from a generation when men were men and King of his castle. Unfortunately it could come down to a restraining order - which is a shame because if this could be worked out amicably it could be a win-win for everyone involved.

Sorry let me clarify this not sure what happened however - my question is what rights does my mother in laws husband have who no longer lives with us as my husband has guardian ship of his mother. Her husband visits daily and makes comments to my mother in law who doesn't understand what he saying about being together again they can't keep us apart - now the reason for him not living with us is he moved out voluntarily claiming he "can't do it any more" it's not good for my health etc. mom is unable to speak at this stage and could not let you her name - we don't let her husband of 7 yrs take her out of the house alone anymore because he has called and told us he pass out in a parking with her. Now he wants to see her alone again and we have said no because we have no clearance from a doctor he won't pass out. Every Friday we keep going through this what else can we do - at times it feels like harassment by him towards us.

Valerie123: In addition, you claim to have YOUR Alzheimer's mother living at HOME with you. Please clarify.

Valerie123: I assume you are the ghost writer for your husband since your profile says YOU are caring for YOUR mother. Please clarify.

Does he have guardianship over her money or her person or both? Either way he has no obligation to live with her. However, he is responsible for making sure she is okay and in a good, safe environment if he is guardian of her person. Is someone else living with her? Does he have workers coming in to care for his mother? As long as she has the care she needs to live safely in her home it should be okay. If he's left her unattended then call Adult Protective Services immediately. Notify the courts as well. In the mean time maybe you can talk some sense into him or somehow intervene in your mother-in-law's care. Please don't sit back and let her suffer because of his negligence if that is, in fact, the case. Good luck!

If a woman is living alone despite advanced Alzheimer's and the guardian is no longer living with her, he's being very negligent and his guardianship should be overturned by the court and given to someone else. It also sounds to me like she needs to be in a facility that specializes in handling people with advanced Alzheimer's. I can understand the reason why he probably had to move out, at some stage they start becoming violent. However, she shouldn't be left alone.

You are talking about guardianship, and not power of attorney, aren't you? I ask because people who are new to this sometimes confuse the two.

Guardianship? He has all control of everything for his mom unless the court papers say otherwise. The only requirement is that all decisions made for her must be in his mom's best interest.

Your question is a little broad. Guardianship is usually for protection, someone to make the decisions for someone else that cannot. So, in terms of rights, what do you mean? In her advanced stage of Alzheimer's, is she demanding to handle things that she no longer can?