Brother takes Mom's pills and money, mom always gives in. How do I make it stop?

Well captain I have to protect her. And must not of cared to much for your mother.

my mom used to hook me up with pills . we would simultaniously be jellin like felons . i , uh , to this day dont see who's business this was except ours ..
shed give me two hydros and three muscle relaxers at the same time .
my . in hindsight we were TOASTED .. LOL ..
god , i miss mom ..

Have you told Mom that if she gives all her meds to son,, she will have none left for her? And then what will she do?

I had the same problem with 3 people in my family. Unless you have POA or guardianship, there is nothing you can do. I had to get my mom into assisted living and take away all her checks and valuables. Addicts will stop at nothing...only answer is to take control of everything yourself, which requires legal authority via POA or guardianship.

Thank you everyone for the input

I agree with Windy.. Tell Mom if she wants him to overdose then keep giving him the pills!!

Addicts have no shame. Tough love won't do it. Get medieval on his @#s. Cops, lawyers whatever it takes. And you'll have to do stuff that will piss mom off. So be it. I went through this with my sister a few years ago. She died of an overdose after wrecking the family for 15 years.

Been there...

My brother in law was an addict who got oxy off my mother in law who died from cancer..

When my mother in law went into the NH on hospice he took all her pills at her home..

After her death he went into rehab and got his crap together for about 6 mths.. But the minute her estate was settled and he got his money he went straight to his heroin dealer..

He lasted 2 years.. He died of an overdose .. He was found in a sleeze bag motel, penniless and alone..

We tried sooo hard to help..We took him in our home took him to rehabs but nothing helped...

Thank you so much for your input. She has been doing for years now he is married and his wife is the same way. Its like I am fighting against all 3 he is a 53 year old man it's not like he is a kid.

didn't check your profile to see if your mom has dementia. If she does it might be easier to get control of this situation. If she's independent there may be very little you can do.

I agree with Windy. Tighten up your mom's finances so she has little to give to your brother. Let her keep a few dollars on her, not enough to lose sleep over if your brother comes sniffing around.

As for the pills, can you keep them locked away?

Your mom is enabling your brother and it's extremely difficult to stop someone from enabling especially if it's a parent who's enabling an adult child. Many times these behavior patterns have been in play for decades or even for an entire lifetime.

This is criminal activity. If you have proof report him to the police.

You need to use your POA to get control of the finances if possible so your mom can't waste all her money on bro and others.