What can I do to help my Dad?

As the national director of G.R.A.D.E. Guardianship Reform Advocates for the Disabled and Elderly I advise you do not get an attorney involved. If he is not currently under guardianship keep it that way. If you go to court 9 times out of 10 when there is family conflict a paid professional guardian is appointed and your father gets taken away and isolated from ALL family. The pattern is isolate, medicate and steal the estate. I advise that you ask your sister to go with you to family counciling to resolve your problems. Please protect your whole family ..and most importantly your father by staying out of probate court. You can find more information at http://www.guardianshipreform.org/

Oh, wow! Why did she do that? He is going to be so confused!

I would think there would be a problem with insurance bringing him to another country.

She will need help and now is not the time to ignore family members who DO want to help!!

I agree Sheba16. If the family can work together, it's best. It's a huge job to care for a senior with health issues and disabilities. Maybe, the sister who has taken dad will discover this soon.

As I am not American, do not know to whom you can address your demand. In any case, and foreseeing the difficulties that will soon arise, I would look up for an organizations that takes care of neglect / abuse of elderly or disabled people and see if they can carry out necessary investigations on site. As for children, there are also social services who look after the needs and treatment of our parents or grandparents. So take information and hope you find a solution. I can imagine that you are worried. But don't be angry at her. Most probably she did it to help without realizing what the consequences are. It is better to work together, and find a solution than to argue. In latter case, your father will be the victim. Wish you all the best. Big hug from Belgium

Is he a US citizen? Do you know where he is located? Is sister his Power of Attorney? If you believe that he is in need of help, you can report the situation to Adult Protective Services with Social Services, asking for an investigation and/or file a Petition with the court for a Guardianship. I would see an attorney for legal advice about what evidence you need.

I think the tips upthread are good. Once family members really get the chance to see what it's like to care for a senior with disabilities, they often bail. It's a lot of work and expensive. Maybe she'll ask you to get involved once she sees how tough it is. She'll likely need help.

With all those medical challenges, he will either have a crisis that will land him in emergency (unless his diabetes is kept under control), and the other medical issues will have their own end result. Either resolve your differences or if your father does not recognize you, then remember him as he once was. People who do not recognize the symptoms of dementia are very dangerous to the patient. Call adult protective services to advocate for your father.

By the end of a month, she will have a whole different outlook. You will be getting a call very soon.