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TS1969 Asked November 2015

My Mother is a pack rat and she leaves the house whenever I'm low on money. What can I do?

I've been the acting caregiver for my mother for over 20 years. Because my mother is officially in charge of all of the finances, I am beholden to her and her manipulation games.

ramiller Nov 2015
I really dont understand your situation at all from what you wrote. More details might clear it up.

Terry512 Nov 2015
What do you mean "she leaves the house when I'm low on money"? Where does she go? Aren't you the principle caretaker? If she can leave on her own and go stay somewhere else when she wants, then it's time for you to do the same. You need to move to your own place and handle your own finances and let her handle her own. You are due a life too just like she is. Both of you move on.

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GardenArtist Nov 2015
TS, with all due respect, why haven't you left the house and started a life of her own during these 20 years? You wrote that she leaves the house when you're low on funds. Are you working? If so, why aren't you in charge of your own finances?

freqflyer Nov 2015
Sounds like your Mom is capable to being by herself. Time for you to move on and have a life of your own.

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