Why doesn't adult protections do anything when a senior who has only a couple of weeks left help make them peaceful?
Disrespectful kids one gets drunk falls and is taken out by ems. they are causing so much stress. Called APS they wouldn't accept the case. So where do I go now?
So sorry.. You know you took care of her until her last breath.. Her kids will have to live the rest of their miserable lives rethinking the awful choices they made... Hugs..
They got away with everything she passed sept 14. I can sometimes still feel her little arms around my neck when she said I Love You for the last time.
No I am not. I do date her youngest son and he is right here with me and will back me we are doing everything we know to do but can't get anyone to help.
I think your authority depends on your status. Do you own the house where the patient is? Were you a caregiver? Do you work for a home care agency? Do you have an employment contract with her? Are you a close friend, who volunteered to help this woman? Are you a partner or spouse?
I would consult with an attorney is you think you have any ownership or right to possession of the house. If you don't have any then I don't know what you can do. Her POA has the right to act on her behalf and unless someone else gets guardianship, I don't know a way to override that.
I would ask the police about reporting harassing phone calls. Why not block the calls?
I can't imagine engaging in a fight with her family as she is dying. If they ask you to leave, what right do you have to stay?
Hospice is involved and the son with power of attorney is just as bad. I ask why and the woman said she wasn't sure. I have documented everything. The lady involved doesn't want me to leave her but the three kids are trying to get rid of me. The one daughter said she was jealous because i knew exactly what to do for her mom and wanted me to ignore her when she called me. I have been here from the beginning and can't ignore her. the daughter wanted to stay all day and that lasted 3 days. I am now getting nasty messages and I called the police to report them harassing me on my phone and they crossed the line calling her phone to harass me.
If this person is the friend for whom you're caring, as stated in your profile, unless you're named in the friend's DPOA, or have guardianship over her, there's not much you can legally do.
If any of the children are reasonable and sensible, you could raise with them the fact that a doctor has given their mother approximately 2 weeks of life, and suggest they involve hospice ASAP.
As to why APS refused to become involved, as asked in the title of your post, what did they say when you asked them why they wouldn't take action?
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we are doing everything we know to do but can't get anyone to help.
I would consult with an attorney is you think you have any ownership or right to possession of the house. If you don't have any then I don't know what you can do. Her POA has the right to act on her behalf and unless someone else gets guardianship, I don't know a way to override that.
I would ask the police about reporting harassing phone calls. Why not block the calls?
I can't imagine engaging in a fight with her family as she is dying. If they ask you to leave, what right do you have to stay?
I've often noted around dying folks, pe ople start to act out, unconciously, as a distraction to the very real drama that's going on in the next room.
If any of the children are reasonable and sensible, you could raise with them the fact that a doctor has given their mother approximately 2 weeks of life, and suggest they involve hospice ASAP.
As to why APS refused to become involved, as asked in the title of your post, what did they say when you asked them why they wouldn't take action?