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star42 Asked September 2015

The Dr. has observed my husband gone down hill a great deal in the past 6 months. Is this the last stage?

My husband is in memory care, he has LBD. The memory care facility called and said he has deteriorated a lot more in the last ten days, a great deal more confusion, incontinence is worse, COPD is worse. He refuses to eat; at times they can coax him into eating some.......the most he eats is maybe 25% of breakfast, at best. Two weeks ago he could carry on somewhat of a conversation, as long as we went along with his fantasy stories. Now he makes no sense; whatever you ask him, he responds with something totally unrelated which makes no sense what-so-ever. The doctor told me if he goes downhill in the next 6 months like he did in the past six months (that was before the past 10 difficult days), that there won't be much left of him.

He refuses to use his walker or cane and falls frequently. He refuses to get dressed; when the staff tries to help him get dressed, he gets hateful, tells them to get out.

Is this the last stage, or could he go on like this indefinitely? He wants to lay in bed all day; they try to keep him mobile, walk with him when he's willing.

Is this the last stage, or could he go on like this indefinitely?

Katie22 Sep 2015
This sounds like where my Mom is too. She lost the ability to walk, then to stand, completely incontinent, eats very little and doesn't talk much at all, gives the answer of "ok" to most everything I ask no matter what it is. She is bedbound in my home and I care for her 24/7. I do agree that once hospice came on things got better as far as no more pressure that was on her always to walk and get better from all the previous doctors and rehab facilities. It was only getting worse and hospice has helped me so much. I do wonder constantly how so many of our loved ones can sustain themselves when they eat so very little.

horselady21 Sep 2015
This sounds like where my mother is. Bed bound, eats a small jello cup a day, but vitals are still good. Idon't know for sure but don't see how a body can sustain itself with sso little nutrition and fluids. She started on hospice last week and they are a godsend, even just to answer all my questions, and to know I am not alone.

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star42 Sep 2015
He was tested for UTI, results were negative.

MaggieMarshall Sep 2015
Ask his doc if it's time to consider hospice. It sounds as though he is.

BarbBrooklyn Sep 2015
Has he been tested for a UTI?

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