My mother has dementia I left my professional job that I worked too hard for many years. for the last 8 years I took care of her nutrition medical entertainment, cleaning, hygiene etc. I am very tired and exhausted. I yell too much at mom and yell more if she refuses to wash her hands or change to a point I get severe headache and after a while I cry and apologize for my mom. My dear mother forgives me even. She tells me she loves me and I know she is upset. My mother loves me and I know that. She tries to make me happy also she tries all her best. I feel so sorry for mom she used to be very smart. I am not trying to give myself excuses I know I should not yell. I am alert 24/7 to her needs. She has very poor hygiene which make me more alert to keep things at least not that dirty. I feel I spent most my life in the bathroom to make sure mom clean and no miss everywhere. I am so tired. I wake up at nights several times for the same reason just to be clean stop the dirt go out the bathroom. I wash my hands everyday many thousands of time. My brother offered to keep mom with him for a week to give me some rest. I am wondering if I do that does that will worsen moms memory.