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jgtheroux Asked January 2015

Dad soon entering into memory care facility. They said that he cannot carry a wallet, money or ID. Any advice?

The wallet is rather essential. Taking away his wallet would be very difficult for him, it is like taking away his dignity. Do most facilities prohibit the resident from carrying a wallet with just a little cash?

rabbit72 Jan 2015
Agree about keeping an empty wallet without valuables. I used to put money in my dad's drawer and he would watch me do it, then I would take it before I left without him seeing me. He forgot and we did the same routine each time I visited.

pamstegma Jan 2015
Let him keep the wallet, and a few pictures in it, with his name and room number in it. Nothing of value, please.

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Litldogtoo Jan 2015
Plus if he plays Bingo, they will give him "Gold" coins. My mother just loves these 'gold' coins and stashes them in her eyeglass case which she keeps near her.

I mean, gees, what else could any person want? :)

Eyerishlass Jan 2015
Yes, it's a liability thing and facilities advise against carrying a wallet and/or money. Residents don't really need money in a wallet in their pocket once they're living there.

When my dad went into a nursing home he was very uncomfortable not carrying a wallet so I gave him his wallet minus anything he couldn't afford to lose and I tucked a $10 bill in there to make him happy. He had been there less than 5 hours when I got a call from him that he had lost his wallet and that money. From then on he didn't carry a wallet and I'd only give him a few dollar bills to carry with him (which always ended up lost). I never gave him more money than he could afford to lose but having some money on him made him feel better. It was a waste of money since it always got lost but my dad felt better having it on him.

LearningCurve Jan 2015
Yes, its a liability problem. Let him know he can keep his essentials in the drawer? I know these things are difficult but probably the least of your worries at this point.
Possibly ask about an empty wallet if he throws a fit?

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