How can I get my brother to eat and use a bed pan?

You can't "make" anyone do anything. Have you tried sitting him out on a comode. Bedpans are pretty archaic and very difficult to use especially for the elderly who can not balance well. Many men are not able to use a urinal lying in bed they have to stand up. What kind of help have you sought apart from asking us?

Yakkeybarb, if he does not eat, he will not be able to poop. What comes out is only produced from what goes in. Hospice is fully covered by Medicare. Call them in the morning.

Lol Capt, your humor is a true gift.

you should use different pans for the two different functions .. he must be terribly confused and repulsed ..

We are working on it, His doctor even tried medical cannabis (legal in a Maine) and it's not working.

Is he on Hospice? You don't last long without eating.