My mother is fine during the day & manages ok with super absorbent menstrual pads. Night time is where the problem lies, in that she moves so slowly in getting to her adjoining bathroom, she goes through 2-5 pairs of underpants & heavy bladder control pads, and often leaves a trail or puddle around the toilet. So far no bed accidents. She always says she wants to help me, & and feels bad when she sees me cleaning the bath, but when I bring up reducing my laundry & cleaning by switching to Depends at nigbt, she gets defensive, denies that she even has to get up during the night, and of course doesn't know who puts the soiled underwear & pads in the laundry & trash. She goes so far as to say someone else must be using her bathroom! I know this is sensitive & embarrassing for her. Do I just get them like I did with the heavier pads and insist that is what she uses? (She took huge offense when she saw the Poise bladder control package). She has mild dementia with reduced short term memory. Have not addressed this with her doctor - maybe his directive would carry more weight. I am present at appontments. Advice please!