MIL with alzheimers is extremely stubborn.

Just went back to your profile: Maria, are you still trying to fit all this around your home-office work? Phew! I like PS's "bait" ideas, nice, maybe you'll know what sort of thing will catch your mil's attention. But if her downhill slope has just steepened, and you've still got your fil's care on your hands, and you're beginning to think in terms of support for your own mother… Isn't this all getting a bit much for one person? I'd be calling for reinforcements. xxx

Mother in law and caregiver 2 of the most frightening words!! My sympathy to you also... I' be been there and done that!! It's much easier to boss around my Mother.....

No advice here - just sympathy.

Give up the battle of wits, the patient will stubbornly maintain control by refusing to do what they are ordered to do. They want choices and they want control. She is pushing your buttons like a four-year-old. She may respond to suggestions, she make come out if you can spark her curiosity, she might get up if Big Band is playing in the kitchen. Get the Michael Buble Christmas album and sing along.