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waldencc Asked June 2013

Does my sister, DPOA, have to provide personal/family care for father's new wife?

She has neglected him, ran up credit cards & disappeared, has three policies out on him. Leaves for weeks a time, wiped out his banking accounts. Father accidentially initialled family and personal care in POA. No one can reach her, doctors, hospitals, LSWs and Adult Protective services. We just want him in a good place and not deal with her anymore. Please help!

virtualhorizon Jul 2013
waldencc...

If your sister has the DURABLE power of attorney it might outweight any other personal or family POA he may have signed over to this new wife. You should check with your lawyer on that. Also, if your Dad is still of sound enough mind to understand what's going on you should get him to sign new POA's if necessary. Was he of sound mind when he married this woman? That might make a big difference. If he was diagnosed with dementia, anything he may have signed while married to this woman may be worthless. If she took all his money and left, file a complaint with the police!

homecare1 Jun 2013
I would also get a restrainning order on her as well, so that she cannot get anywhere near him.

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homecare1 Jun 2013
Is your father mentally with it? Is your fathers wife his POA? If its the POA you need to have changed and this woman can be provin to be incompantant and a danger to your father you can petition the courts to change it. That would be very simple to do especially if this woman cannot be found. Now the only problem would be if your father is mentally with it, then the courts would go with what your father says. This is definitely a matter for the courts and if I were you I would try to legally get the life insurance policies changed or cancelled so that she would get nothing but the debt she have incurred for being money hungry.

ChristinaW Jun 2013
Wow. Trouble. Gold digger, maybe? Get an attorney to have a man to man with poor Dad.
Awful when this drama happens.
She could be in the Bahamas by now:( Good luck, xo

waldencc Jun 2013
Hi Virtualhorizon,
Sorry it is the new wife doin these things. Myself and siblings are trying to care for him and get her out of the home which is not in her name but my mother's still. It is on a reverse mortgage of which my father did when he was well. Hope this helps. Sorry for the confusion.

virtualhorizon Jun 2013
Is it your sister who has done all of the things you described, or is it the new wife? You said that "she" has neglected him, etc., but it is confusing as to which person you are referring to!

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