What to do with mom?

It is time to place Mother's care in the hands of professionals.

Does she have dementia or Alzheimer's? Also what is the reason for not wanting a nursing home? I understand how stressful this has become for you as I have my 90 yr old mother living with me. I feel lucky that she can still use the bathroom or commode with very little assistance from me. Recently she has compressed disks that are quite painful and I have to help her get out of bed at night to use her commode. The reason my sisters and I don't want to put our Mother in a nursing home is because we feel she would not remember to use the call button and would end up lying there for hours without help or try to get put of bed on her own, fall and break something, end up in hospital where they would over medicate her for pain and she would get pneumonia and die. I'm not saying that nursing home staff are not capable, just sometimes have too many patients and can't get to all of them often enough. There should be an Area Agency on Aging that could offer some advice or help with your situation. Hugs to you and look up that phone number for AAA and call.