What do you do with an elder who can take care of themselves, but are lazy and will not?

Adbrook: why do say, "they think it's funny"? Is this person depressed, demented, or playing games with you? It's got to be one of these. Has a doctor assessed this person?
If they are depressed, they are not lazy, just can't get going. If they are demented, they can't help it, or meds need to be changed. If they are simply playing games with you, and you are the pawn--what the heck is the matter with you? Let it out, Adbrook. We care:))) Hugs

You know it's funny, in that if you weren't available cause you lived a 1000 miles away, somehow she'd find a way to take care of herself. hmmmm

Are you living with this person? Is that why you are waiting on them hand and foot? Sounds like may be you should just leave them, since they are capable, and let them do what needs to be done. If they get sick of the way things are, they will get it done.