I am increasingly uncomfortable with her decision not to use her cane and hearing aids regularly. Going out in public or listening to her talk about situations where she clearly needed them drives me crazy. Sometimes she just forgets or doesn't think or is in a hurry. I used to remind her when we went out to bring her cane but now she insists she doesn't need it. (In the spring using her cane/ wheelchair was not optional but she is better now) Hearing aids are relatively new, less than a year, but she only wears them sparingly because thinks they are like reading glasses only puts them in to go to doctors or church. She complains about not being able to hear people on the phone, at church, at social occasions and says the problem is with other people. I want to be sympathetic, to empathize because these changes - mobility and needing a cane and losing her ability to hear are not easy and a blow to her pride. I want to help her stay independent longer because she likes to socialize, volunteer, be around people. She lives on her own, still drives @ 92 and very independent/ stubborn. She lives around the corner from me. I don't want my discomfort to prevent me from being around her, being social, listening to her. I wish I could approach her differently, lighter, maybe with humor, but instead I get angry and worry more often than not which does not help. Suggestions?