I am 26 and have been caring for my 81 year old Grandmother for the past 5 years. I was just married and pregnant and we (my husband, grandmother and I) decided that we would get a house together so that she could have someone take care of her and I could stay home and take of her and my children.
Durring the first few months of living with each other HER children (other than my Mother who lives to far away to help but her son and other daughter) got into a fight over nothing of importance and they decided they would no longer have any relationship with her. They live within 10mins of our house and have not contacted her in anyway. So, now I am left holding the bag.
It was almost like they could tell she was getting worse (health wise) and did not want to have to take on any responsiblity. Plus the fact she could no longer help them out financially because she needs the money for her own health care.
I do get respite at least once a week, she has an CNA come in and help her out for a few hours. But, I am angry with my Aunt and Uncle for abandoning her in her old age. I also have cousins who choose to go along with their parents plan and now they no longer come over to visit her.
She has been getting worse this past year and I am terrified to go on any type of vacation. Somedays when I get up in the morning I can tell she has not gotten up at night (which she used to do on a regular bases) and worry is this the morning that I will find her gone.
I don't know how to deal with my anger. I don't understand how they could do this to her. She isn't the easiest person to deal with and we have had many fights but I know that she loves me and my family and we lover her. She has done nothing to her children that deserves this kind of treatmeant.
I just wish they could get over themselves and spend time with her while they can. I know it would make her happy and it would be really nice if she had family who could invite her to dinner once a week. And, if we went on vacation to have family to come check on her and not someone we pay.
I just needed to vent thank you.