What do you do when the one you have been caring for doesn't see that you need a break?
I have been caring for my very ill father for almost two years on top of my own illnesses and for the past few months I am totally exhausted. What is there to suggest when your parent will not go to a respite place so you can get a rest? I have pleaded for this and it is not working. Even Hospice has talked to him about it. I thought I would feel guilty even asking but I know and my body is telling me that if I do not get a rest I will end up in the hospital. It is a hard situation and one that has me depleted of energy, let alone what it is doing to my teenage son as well. We want the best for my father but he is difficult to manage at times and I do not think he realizes due to his illness how much of a toll it is taking on me. I do not get the family support like I wish I did as well as everyone is too busy or does not want to come here. The stress has me getting sicker as the days go on even though he stays in bed all day I still have to be on guard for him falling, meds, etc. Any suggestions. He is my father I love him and he is a Vet as well. It has been the hardest two years of my life. I am 55. Thank you.